"Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." ~Robert Brault
1. It's going to hurt.
This blog is solely the opinion of the writer and not necessarily that of the staff or firm of Zoller Biacsi Co., LPA.
One of the toughest, and saddest, things to accept in any failed marriage is the culpability of both parties in the breakup of the family.
I have a blended family, my kids belong to two blended families, I know friends and acquaintances that have blended families, and I work with blended families each day.
As the person who accepts most of our potential client initial calls, I can assure you that I have heard more sad stories than you could ever imagine.
Sometimes, we all find ourselves ready to try something new, to do something different. After years of shopping at the same store, you might decide to try a new place. After months of the same haircut, you go a little crazy and get a different style completely. After days of silence at home, you break it with an olive branch in the form of wine, cheese and crackers for your husband, along with some quiet talk laced generously with forgiveness and apology.
So ... what is forgiveness? What is it not? What does it look like and feel like? How can you tell when forgiveness has happened?
All of us have been hurt by someone at some time, intentionally or accidentally, and most likely, that someone apologized to us. But what if an apology never comes? What if you were so hurt - physically, mentally or emotionally - and you never hear, "I am sorry"? Then what? How is that to be handled? Is it best to hold on to the negative emotions and let them fester through more negativity and resentment?