"Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." ~Robert Brault
This blog is solely the opinion of the writer and not necessarily that of the staff or firm of Zoller Biacsi Co., LPA.
One of the toughest, and saddest, things to accept in any failed marriage is the culpability of both parties in the breakup of the family.
As the person who accepts most of our potential client initial calls, I can assure you that I have heard more sad stories than you could ever imagine.
So ... what is forgiveness? What is it not? What does it look like and feel like? How can you tell when forgiveness has happened?
All of us have been hurt by someone at some time, intentionally or accidentally, and most likely, that someone apologized to us. But what if an apology never comes? What if you were so hurt - physically, mentally or emotionally - and you never hear, "I am sorry"? Then what? How is that to be handled? Is it best to hold on to the negative emotions and let them fester through more negativity and resentment?
Perhaps you find yourself in the eye of the storm. Your spouse has just dropped a bomb on you - he/she is not happy and wants a divorce. You may feel as though the earth is crumbling beneath you. Your head and heart may be swirling with emotions: fear, sadness and anger. It is important to feel your feelings and deal with them, but in a productive and safe manner. First, in order to do that you will need to get to a place of acceptance. This may take time - and may be something that takes a lot of work - but be honest with yourself. And be gentle with yourself.