I have a blended family, my kids belong to two blended families, I know friends and acquaintances that have blended families, and I work with blended families each day.
In the wake of my son's graduation from high school, I have been pondering the last 13 years. When my son was 5 - in fact, right before he started kindergarten - his father told me he was unhappy in our marriage and wanted to leave. I can only describe my feelings as total and complete devastation. The word "divorce" was not actually used. I know now that he could not bring himself to say it - at least, not at first.