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Interparental Hatred

"She's like the evil mastermind of a horror film." - Father with joint custody, separated five years

"I hate him. I wish he were dead." - Mother with joint custody, separated four years

Our firm's tagline is "Helping Families Through Transition," and with this in mind, we are adjusting our practice to be more outcome-oriented. The Collaborative Process focuses on client participation in the divorce, leading to stronger and more permanent outcomes, while Litigation allows the Court to make the decisions for the clients, sometimes leading to years of post-decree motions and no final outcome in sight. The primary differences between Collaborative and Litigation divorce processes were discussed in a previous blog: https://www.zblaw.net/blog/2017/05/divorce-litigation-v-collaborative-process.shtml.

Why Forgive?

"Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." ~Robert Brault

Forgiveness comes a little easier for some people. The most successful clients I have represented are those that are able to forgive. Divorce is so painful; so difficult and sometimes it is just feels so unfair. The clients that have been able to move beyond the pain and forgive are those that I believe are the most successful and happy. The ability to forgive is so freeing and opens the door to move on to the next chapter.

Six Things to Know about Divorce

1. It's going to hurt.

This is true no matter if you are the instigating party or not. The end of what was meant to be a permanent relationship is second on the stress-rating Holmes and Rahe scale after "death of a spouse." Whether or not you want the divorce, you are going to experience emotions that may at times be debilitating. In some instances, the tension may escalate into violence. People who would never think they are capable of violence in reality are. Pain and loneliness will make most people do almost anything.

Joint Tax Returns - Do What is Best for Your Family

For most people, their wedding day is a culmination of hopes and dreams - the beginning of "happily ever after." G. K. Chesterton reportedly quips, "The fairy tales said that the prince and princess lived happily ever afterwards; and so they did. They lived happily, although it is very likely that from time to time they threw the furniture at each other."

Couples who navigate this business of living with another flawed human being stay married, but our office regularly hears from those who cannot live happily together any longer and so find the only option is divorce.

Shared Parenting Plans

A Shared Parenting Plan, also known as "SPP," is a detailed document which addresses the many different areas of care for the children whose parents are divorcing. Contrary to common belief, it is not simply a 50/50 visitation or "possessory time" plan.

The SPP is typically 20-25 pages in length, with the first 5 pages containing standard language discussing the parents' commitment to the plan and the rights the children have, one of which is the right to express love for each parent without having to hide it or fear the disapproval of either parent.

It's not over, until it's over ...

Many recently divorced people become frustrated after their "final" hearing because their case still requires legal work. Every case is different. However, many cases resolve with the requirement that certain accounts are equalized as of a certain date. Collecting and exchanging statements or other account information can take some time. Reaching additional, post decree agreements about the settlement of those accounts can also take some time. The momentum for buttoning up these details is often lost once the Judge grants the divorce.

When You Just Can't Get What You Want

This blog is solely the opinion of the writer and not necessarily that of the staff or firm of Zoller Biacsi Co., LPA. 

Have you ever tried to make somebody do something?

My aunt, when my kids were really little, once told me, "Pick your battles." In other words, don't make everything into a fight. Choose that which is important enough to enforce, and then let other things slide.

Divorce: Litigation v. Collaborative Process

One of the toughest, and saddest, things to accept in any failed marriage is the culpability of both parties in the breakup of the family.

Our firm represents both men and women, Plaintiffs and Defendants, those who have cheated and those who have been cheated on. We represent people accused of alcoholism and drug abuse, and we represent the accusers. Always, always, there are two people involved who are hurt badly, no matter what side they are on. Sometimes, the need for revenge is so strong, it makes people do remarkable damage to each other, to themselves, to their children.

Brave New Hope

I have a blended family, my kids belong to two blended families, I know friends and acquaintances that have blended families, and I work with blended families each day.

It's a nice pretty-sounding word: BLENDED. All mushed up together, like a milkshake. Or maybe, a business-like blended, as in "integrated" or "merged." Or swirled beautifully, all united in movement.

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